There is a popular belief that not every gift will become a source of happiness and success for its new owner. Therefore, you need to be very careful when choosing a gift. Of course, many signs are completely meaningless. But the existence of some of them is truly justified. These are the ones that will be discussed in this article.

What not to give: 10 things that bring bad luck

1. Watches, towels and scarves cannot be presented as gifts. These things are a symbol of illness, quarrel and long separation. Our ancestors believed that a given watch takes away years of a person’s life. For example, in China, a watch received as a gift is considered an invitation to a funeral.
2. Animals should not be given as gifts. When presenting such a gift, you need to take a ransom for it. Otherwise, the pet will strive to run away to its previous owners.
3. You cannot give piercing or cutting objects. These include scissors, forks, knives, daggers, etc. According to popular belief, sharp edges attract evil spirits. And you, with this item, give a demon who brings quarrels and adversity into the house.
4. It is not recommended to give empty items intended for storing something, such as wallets. You definitely need to put a small amount of money in them. This will attract good luck and future profits.
5. If you believe the signs, then the girl should not be given pearls, which the Greeks have long considered to be the tears of sea nymphs. Over time, the essence of this belief has changed slightly, but, nevertheless, the donated pearl remains a symbol of the shed tears of widows and orphans.
6. According to popular belief, you should not give socks as a gift to your beloved man. They say that the husband, having put them on, can leave the house forever. However, resourceful daughters-in-law, who consider their spouses to be mama's boys, use this sign to their advantage, offering their mother-in-law to give their son a pair of woolen socks.
7. You should not give a cross as a gift, except in cases of baptism. And in everyday life, the person who gives such a gift conveys his fears, anxieties and worries to the new owner of the cross.
8. You cannot give a mirror. In the past, and even now, they say that mirrors are a corridor leading from our world to the world of spirits. According to some sovereign citizens, a gifted mirror can bring a lot of worries and troubles. Therefore, it is better not to give such a gift.
9. Orthodox people consider handkerchiefs bad gifts. They say that along with them, the tears and sorrows of other people pass to the new owner. It’s better to cross handkerchiefs off your gift list, because they predict an impending separation from a loved one.
10. Donated items cannot be re-gifted, because the person who gave them transferred his energy along with them. And the donated item will store within itself the unfavorable energy of denial. This will cause discomfort while staying in the house.

If you still want to give one of the items from the above list, then a small ransom may be the way out of this situation. This will make it possible to transfer the process of donation into the category of ordinary trade relations, and the effect of the belief will not extend to the object of the donation. Ask the person you are giving the gift to pay you a nominal cost for it.

What you can’t give as a gift in different countries

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The worst gifts for girls

How often do we say: “There are always exceptions to the rules, but some things are quite universal.” During the holidays, women experience two feelings: 1) They are glad that everyone congratulates them, and they are filled with a joyful atmosphere. 2) They understand that time is passing and they are starting to grow old. This is a very treacherous time to give gifts. There are some things that men should not give, even if a woman hints at it.

In general, there are 15 of the worst gifts a man can give to a woman. Read, remember and never repeat!

1) Household electrical appliance s. Nothing sounds more romantic than a vacuum cleaner. You may really need them, but the woman will think that you only want to force her to clean the house. Put off giving such things for another day.

2) Cream for wrinkles and acne. We know that women spend fortunes on wrinkle and acne creams. Some of us may think that it is a great idea to give such a remedy. Don't make this mistake, you will only offend the woman.

3) Sports equipment. You may think that there is nothing wrong with this, but there is. Men encounter this problem quite often. By giving a trainer, you are hinting that the woman has become lazy and overweight, and this will definitely offend her.

4) Nose trimmer. No matter how funny it sounds, men give such things quite often. Firstly, it looks like you bought it at the last minute, and secondly, it hits the woman’s pride

5) Cookbook. This is very similar to home appliances. You are essentially telling the woman, “Go to the kitchen and make me a sandwich.” Also included in the section of unfortunate gifts are: frying pans, work gloves, pots and other kitchen utensils.

6) Hair removal wax. This gift is one of the most negative in its response. If your woman has problems in this area, then give her a certificate for visiting a SPA salon.

7) Device for removing antennae. Women really need these devices. And they give them to each other. But to receive such a device as a gift from a man? It's better for you not to do this.

8) Stripper pole. Regardless of what kind of figure she has, whether her sparkling disposition is attractive to you - her birthday is not a reason to give such a provocative gift. When you give a stripper pole to your loved one for her birthday, you risk never seeing it in use.

9) Video with a fitness instructor. One of the funniest gifts for lovely ladies who know about their problem with excess weight. Don’t embarrass your woman, forget about such gifts.

10) Dear diet. If you see your woman eating whatever she can and gaining extra pounds, don’t think about giving her a weight loss plan. If you want to give this to her, ask her friend to do it.

11) Tickets for an event that you like. This is a typical situation when a man does not take into account the opinion of “his other half” and invites her to an event that she is not interested in. Remember, it’s her birthday, bear with any cute fairy tale for at least one day.

12) Something for her car. You might think it's a cool idea to get something for her car. However, a woman’s car is her personal space. She may not understand your gift and put it somewhere in the garage as trash.

13) Sale gifts. Obvious evidence that the man forgot about her birthday is a gift from some cheap store. Remember, she always double-checks your gift! And big problems await you.

14) Envelope with money. Don't make a woman feel like a prostitute. The gift must be from the heart with attention and care. And she will always have time to take money from you.

15) Nothing. In most cases, the lady will say that she was not offended at all. But know that she will definitely not be happy to receive anything from you. Even if she says she doesn’t want a gift, you must give it to her!

For our birthday, we always want to receive something special and necessary as a gift. But, unfortunately, our expectations are not always met. First, let's learn how to properly give gifts for other people's birthdays. Here is a list of gifts that are most often inappropriate for this occasion.

Bag or wallet

The recipient of the gift may have his own preferences here. For example, there are people who prefer to use things only made of genuine leather. If you give a bag or purse made of leatherette, you are unlikely to make a person happy with it. As for wallets, perhaps a person already has a good one and does not need extra. One of my relatives gave me wallets five times for my birthdays, both penny ones and made of artificial leather and textiles, while I only use relatively expensive ones made of genuine leather - I believe that they attract money...

Bath and hygiene products

Towels, shampoos and shower gels are even more or less appropriate as a gift for the New Year or March 8, but for a birthday it’s unlikely that anyone will be delighted with such a gift. Usually such things are given when they don’t want to bother themselves with choosing an individual gift.

Clothes or shoes

Giving wearable items for a birthday is too risky. You may not guess the size, and the birthday boy may simply not like the item. My aunt loves to give me summer blouses for my birthdays, but to be honest, I would never buy one for myself... And it’s somehow inconvenient to say this.

If you really want to give a dress or shoes, it’s better to take the birthday person to the store and let him choose the item himself. Or just pay for it.

Cosmetics and perfume

Everyone loves to give them, although there are a lot of nuances. You may simply not like the gift (wrong color, smell, etc.), or the person may be allergic to it. In order not to get into trouble, you need to know what brand a person uses, what shades and aromas he prefers. It is clear that you should not give cheap lipstick or perfume to a lady who only uses expensive brands. And the fact that such prices are beyond your means cannot in any way serve as an excuse.

Decorations

It’s very easy to “miss” when giving. For example, a person wears only jewelry made from natural stones, but is given cheap jewelry. I have a bunch of wooden and plastic beads and pendants at home that I have never worn. They just tried to “make me happy” with them for my next birthday. And my mother is often given earrings, although her ears are not pierced.

Before giving jewelry, find out the person's tastes or at least observe his style. You don’t want the trinket you gave to be later given away or to find a place at the bottom of the box?

Books

Nowadays it is very fashionable to present various richly illustrated gifts for birthdays. But the fact is that not everyone is interested in beautiful pictures; for some, the theme of the book is still important. If this is a volume of poetry, and the person to whom the gift is addressed does not really like poetry, then, most likely, the volume will be put on a shelf and forgotten. Likewise, there is no point in giving an illustrated guidebook to someone who doesn't like to travel. Or give some popular encyclopedia to someone who is generally not inquisitive by nature and reads little. You should not give a book on music or painting to someone who is not interested in these types of art. Give a book if you are sure that the person will at least leaf through it.

Animals

For some reason, many people think that a kitten or puppy will be a birthday present. Yes, if you give such a gift to a child, he will most likely be happy. But you can cause a lot of inconvenience to his parents with this gift. And if the recipient of the gift is an adult, then you can embarrass both him and yourself.

Not all people are ready to take care of a pet. Perhaps a person does not have the opportunity to do it because he has a lot of work, or he is often on the road. Or the apartment does not have conditions for a four-legged “tenant” to stay... Or the family already has animals. You never know!

Giving a living “gift” is appropriate only in one case - if you warned about it in advance and agreed on the issue with the future owner of the living creature or his relatives. Even if a person previously told you that he dreams of a cat, or a dog, or a guinea pig, it is not a fact that he will actually jump for joy.

Flowers, sweets and wine

They can serve as an addition to the gift, but the main gift should be more “meaningful”. The flowers will wither in a couple of days, the sweets will eventually be eaten, the wine will be drunk... There will be no memory of the gift left. Such things are usually given as a present on duty - when there is no time to specifically look for something.

Remember that on their birthday, everyone wants to feel like they mean something to others. Therefore, the more individual your gift looks, the more it suits this particular person, the more likely it is that it will actually be in demand.

What difference does it make what gift? A gift is a sign of attention. This means that they are thinking about you. They go and choose, and then you remain dissatisfied with the “cheap bracelet”. It seems to me or people are still greedy.

I was once given a keychain for New Year's. Shiny, metallic, like logos of famous car brands and a CD with music. In general, girls give gifts such as razors, shaving foam, panties, beer mugs, desiccs, and colognes. I'm glad to see anyone in this matter and I'm not picky. And choosing a gift is actually some kind of execution.

That's for sure! Choosing a gift is an execution in torture.) For these holidays, I received an order from my husband for a set of tools (thank God!), before I had to get out and give books, computer games, DVDs with films, winter clothes. But the most offensive thing is that there are 1000 fewer departments with goods for men than for women and children (and this is in the era of consumerism)...
So it’s better to ask for the right thing in advance, rather than try to be happily surprised by another razor.

Gift cards are a veiled monetary gift, so most often this will be regarded as a successful gift for any holiday, and then, on the spot, you can already choose what you want, but are embarrassed to ask.

Oh, by the way, yes, that’s a thought; there are all sorts of certificates now, there are probably a lot of them in cosmetics stores, after all, it’s probably nice for any girl to receive a piece of jewelry as a gift. Classics, of a kind, in gifts. Why are you ashamed? Your eco has stolen a whole set of tools, by the way, it’s not cheap, but it’s also needed in the household, don’t be shy, if there’s another occasion like this, it’s a sin to refuse for the New Year.

As far as I remember, a friend of my father gave his wife a food processor or something like that for her birthday, and she not only doesn’t like to cook, she doesn’t have time, as a result, she almost killed him with this gift and was terribly angry for at least 3 weeks on my husband. I agree with her, for me this is a very big insult, I’m afraid to imagine what I would do for such a thing.

I agree with everything, damn it! On my own behalf I would add creepy tablecloths - curtains - curtains - bed linen. It’s especially wonderful if it’s somehow stale, reeks of the 90s or Chinese. It’s also absolutely wonderful when they pass on all sorts of crap with the symbols of last year.

I wouldn't call household appliances a bad gift. Even if it is a slow cooker that will make cooking easier, many will be glad to have it. I would probably call these sets of cosmetics in cellophane a bad gift. You'll never know for sure with this one.

I think that household appliances and all sorts of things for the kitchen, for example, or for baking are not the worst option, but if you are absolutely sure that the girl wants it, or she herself mentioned in a conversation that it would not be bad to have such and such a mixer or something else. But this is more likely for a birthday. It seems to me that New Year is a holiday for symbolic gifts, not expensive jewelry or things.

Everything is said correctly, of course, but this comes from those times when we had nothing, and any things were considered good gifts. Given the shortage, both the frying pan, the mixer and the edible sets were all received with a bang. And now it turns out that you can only give decorative crap. In general, now it’s very difficult to choose a gift, people have everything, you need to somehow fantasize, strain your brains, and few people want to do this.

I really like giving gifts, more than receiving. I like to notice certain things and casually ask about the necessary things. You almost always manage to surprise with the choice of gift. It’s an incomparable feeling to see the happy eyes of those to whom I present a surprise. Let your imagination run wild and don’t be offended if the gifts don’t live up to your expectations.

Author, I completely agree with you, except for household appliances. Of course, I wouldn’t want to receive such a gift from my husband, but my husband and I constantly give them to our parents, because they need it. I give my husband perfume, of course I know what he likes. And he also gives me perfume, my favorite, and jewelry. I can’t stand it when relatives give something with the symbol of the New Year or cheap things like a photo album or frame or a cheap tea set, I think it would be better if they bought fruit for the money, at least some benefit.

Oh, I remembered a gift that I better never give - it will definitely go in the trash. I love perfumes, but I can't stand counterfeits of branded scents. And if they give me some kind of “Shonel”, it will really upset me. It’s better to present some inexpensive perfume without pretensions to something more - Yves Rocher, Oriflame, Dzintars or even “New Dawn” (although NZ has a lot of copies of famous fragrances, you have to be more careful here). I also use simple scents to suit my mood. But it should be an independent scent, and not a bad copy of something.

The main thing is the approach to the person to whom the gift is given! In my life I have never given gifts that I don’t like - frames, bedding of strange sizes, Soviet tea sets. To the trash! When there is not enough money for a more or less decent gift, my husband and I give money as much as we can at the moment! It’s better to give 100 hryvnia than a stupid, useless set from a distant relative, even if it costs 5 times more! And it feels like they gave you a chance to get away with it! Let's say a person likes to go to the bathhouse, and you give him a set of aroma oils in a pharmacy for little money. It will be 100% more pleasant for him than a photo frame, which is also a non-standard size. In short, the main thing is the approach!

The best gift is a marriage proposal. In addition to this is an original gold ring.

When I was 17 or 18, I was given a soft cutie bunny, about one and a half meters tall, white and soft pink, and I was incredibly happy. Over the years, it either did not fit into the interior, or there was no space and was put away in the closet. Now, of course, I wouldn’t want to receive such gifts. I was given a dog for my 24th birthday, but! The man knew that I had been dreaming about a Pomeranian for a long time, but somehow I didn’t dare and just took me to another city for a surprise for my birthday. I was in quiet shock when I walked to some unknown place. But when a bunch of red fluffies greeted me, I understood everything and almost cried with happiness. I chose my little daughter, who is half-sized, and she is still incredibly happy! So what about animals is a controversial issue. If, of course, they unexpectedly brought me a kitten or something else, of course it would not cause delight, since the future owner must still choose with the heart of his pet.

And I love the figures of the year, there are very cute ones, but I prefer to choose them myself, because if my colleagues give them as gifts, then they really don’t come across very nice specimens. And among the useless gifts, I would highlight candles and warm cute socks. It is better to buy them according to your taste. And also blankets, it has become very popular to give plush soft blankets. And now there is nowhere to put them, except to sew dresses.

By the way, I want to defend the author, many here started talking about household appliances, saying that this is good. I agree, things are necessary. But there is one thing. When my washing machine broke last New Year, if my husband had seized the moment and given it to me for the New Year, I would have killed him! This is an absolutely necessary thing in the household; it would really mean that the husband cheated and saved. In fact, we would have bought it anyway. Well, we actually bought it. But if one of your relatives said: oh, let’s give you a washing machine, or we’ll give you a washing machine, no problem, thank you very much! We are talking about the appropriateness of not only the gift, but also the appropriateness of the gift from a specific donor. For example, if a woman has long dreamed of specific shoes (a fur coat, a ring, a typewriter, highlight what you need or insert your own), and asks her husband for them, and he wants to give them to her, but is not yet able to due to financial problems, for example ( This, in my opinion, is the only reason, because if you have finances, but you don’t give him a big dream, then it means he still succeeds?) and so they take it, and this treasured thing is given by parents, for example. No, well, everyone knows about her dream, why not buy it. Well, from the girl’s side the reaction may be different. But whether it was appropriate to humiliate a man like that is a question. And these are 2 examples when the same necessary and desired gift can become disappointing. Everyone has their own limits of normality and necessity. For some, jewelry is garbage, but for example, I wouldn’t exchange the 50-ruble earrings that my grandmother gave me for the last New Year that she was with us for any diamonds. Expensive first of all really attention. Precisely attention. Gifting for show, putting you on the shopping list, this is not attention. But to know what you need and what you want. what can make you happy, assess how appropriate it will be, and accurately assess whether it is worth giving - this is attention to a person. This is art, although among loved ones, ideally, this should be the norm.

Oh, I don’t know how to choose gifts at all, so I tell everyone right away that it’s better to order something from me. I can easily choose as a gift a notebook, socks or a pack of aspirin, a figurine, a set of bath cleaning products, and while I’m buying it, there’s just some kind of veil before my eyes, it seems to me like a super gift, the veil falls exactly in that moment when I bring it all home and start looking at it.

Oh, I absolutely agree! Although bears are very cute, but when this plush joy is 2 times bigger than you and you can’t even wash it in a machine when it finally gets dusty, this is not the case. In my opinion, appliances and household utensils should be bought for no reason at all. It’s a dubious pleasure to receive a stove for a holiday, for which you also cook, or even worse, a set of pans. Well, perhaps if the girl is a super-mega cook and just gets a kick out of cooking, you can give her something like that for her research, in this case it’s relevant. In general, the best gifts are gifts related to hobbies and interests. My mom loves to sew, and my dad recently gave her a very fancy machine, what a joy it was!

Competition of crooked Chinese! I made fun of them about the symbols of the year, but really, that’s probably how they make them. In my hit list of terrible gifts, these very symbols of the year share first place with soft toys, because I don’t like things that sit and collect dust. The stupidest gift I received from a colleague on New Year's Day was a set of night-day cream.... against wrinkles. Extremely “relevant” for a 20-year-old girl! Apparently, the man simply grabbed whatever came to hand from the Rive Gauche counter - soulless and useless.

I don’t agree about appliances and items for the kitchen and household. I am asking my husband for a gift of a large food processor, which will have a blender, a grater, a chopper, and a bunch of other things in one. I love to cook and I love gifts like this!

A mug, candles, donated boxes of chocolates, alcohol (I don’t drink), handmade soap. In my opinion, if you don’t know what to give or you don’t have much money, you can just give one large beautiful rose or a bouquet of small roses.

ABOUT! Yes! figurines of animals symbolizing the year - this is hell! I saw figurines of a bull repainted into a tiger - well, they didn’t sell all the bulls, and refocused on the next year. And also, despite the fact that most of our country considers itself Orthodox, everyone believes in pagan amulets.

It's really completely subjective. I only agree about household appliances. And we traditionally have figurines and magnets with the symbol of the year as an addition to the gift. Of course, no one wants to receive a piece of plastic 50 by 50 centimeters as a full-fledged gift. And for me, terrible gifts include gifts without imagination. These are standard gifts such as a bottle of cognac, a photo album, a set of shampoo + conditioner + shower gel, and so on.

It seems to me that the most important thing is that the gift is chosen with soul, and not “for fun”. And so, there are no rules. If a husband gives his wife, say, a robot vacuum cleaner or a dishwasher so that she is less tired of household chores, I think this is a great gift. If any girl loves to cook, she will be delighted with kitchen gadgets. Costume jewelry can be a good gift, and by the way, it can be even more stylish than gold from a Soviet jewelry store. For those who pay special attention to the interior, even a banal photo frame, blanket or pillows can also become a dream gift if it is chosen with taste. And so on...

I consider the most disgusting gift to be any piece of furniture, or objects “beautiful, or as a keepsake.” The person seems to oblige me to the fact that this object should stand or hang in plain sight, as if pleasing the donor. It’s somehow stupid to receive a painting as a gift and hide it in a closet. And in general, it’s better to give me what I asked for, or nothing at all.

I don’t agree with many things, but yes, about figurines, you can still give them to children, I also don’t agree about household appliances, if I know that a person has wanted this thing for a long time, why not make his dream come true, and to people, as they say, strangers, not to loved ones, they don’t give such things, just like if I know that my friend wants a dog and I know what breed, Well, she doesn’t have the opportunity to buy it, why can’t I give it to her. The gifts you listed are given to family and friends whom you know well. I agree about the jewelry. These gifts can only be given under certain circumstances when you really know what the person needs.

It seems to me that everything is individual. Some recipients of this gift will be happy about it, while others, on the contrary, will be upset. There is no worse or better gift. Some people squeal from gold earrings with diamonds, while others are indifferent to gold, but dream of drinking freshly washed juices in the morning and would gladly receive a juicer as a gift...

I completely agree, all the gift options you mentioned are simply terrible. I especially never understood when husbands give their wives, for example, on March 8, say, a blender. It is clear that a woman in the kitchen cooks for the whole family, but this is not her personal gift, it’s the same as giving a man a frying pan, it’s not entirely pleasant, I think he will like it. I personally am of the opinion that even if you give something to the house, some equipment or something for everyday life, then be sure to give something else, albeit small, but for the girl personally.

For me, among the unsuccessful gifts are sets of tea (sometimes coffee). Half the house is littered with these sets. And now I’ll probably have enough tea for the rest of my life! I agree with the point about cheap jewelry; such earrings actually make my ears hurt. Plus, I think pots of flowers or cacti are a bad gift!

What are good gifts? I love books and homemade things. But even when I say without hints what to give me, those around me get a little tense. You need to go to the bookstore or do something there. Therefore, shampoo and shower gel. These are the worst gifts. And also, why, when they give money, is everyone happy and doesn’t worry that they are considered poor, and bald spot grout is offensive? Money is a sign of indifference; you immediately understand that the person has no time for you.

The stupidest gift is a cheap candle, with the inscription 2015 or in the form of a symbol of the year, well, if only it still smelled...

In general, neither with our friends nor in our family is it customary to give gifts for the New Year! I don’t give anyone anything for the New Year, so I don’t understand this fuss. For a birthday, yes, it’s sacred! And my parents only gave me New Year’s gifts when I was little! Well, I drew some postcards for them. And then they stopped. In general, I don’t understand this, but if you know something specific that a specific person needs, you can make a surprise from the heart. But why go and buy junk for all your friends out of some sense of duty, I don’t understand that.

So I think that gifts should be either neutral or coordinated, otherwise it’s somehow awkward, and it’s difficult to feign delight. I still don’t like it when a person who doesn’t really know me and my tastes gives me decorative items, okay, mascara, or eyeliner, something universal, but they give me some kind of shadows, lipstick - this is very individual for me, just like and perfume with clothes, and accessories.

I agree about Bears and soft toys, but not about household appliances. Who would give me a new washing machine or coffee machine, for example? I would be happy. In general, I am for useful gifts. I love it when they give me something that I will then use every day. Even if it's dishes or pans or pots. They are different. I wouldn't mind using a Zepter saucepan.

It’s quite difficult for me to please, so I always ask for specific things from people close to me) I can’t stand surprises and useless rubbish that friends give for the holidays. A set of sweets is better than all sorts of Chinese candles, figurines, key chains and other crap.

I hate all sorts of useless figurines, candles with the symbol of the coming year, cosmetic sets consisting of tattered shower gel, soap and a washcloth, I immediately have a question - do you really think that I have nothing to wash with?

A month after meeting and actively courting, one young man gave me a set of pots. I really felt like such a housewife, and on March 8th... a mouse for a computer. And my relatives always come with a whole mountain of magnets and candles.

I don’t agree about soft toys. If you have children, then huge soft toys are in order. I remember when I was little, I liked toys that were taller than me most of all.... Now I have a huge giraffe that acts as a curtain and blocks the light in the morning.

I agree with many things. But I think the gift of household appliances, even if it is cynically aimed at making life easier for the whole family, is not the worst option. But we know the brownies are better!

I thought about all sorts of funny situations following the “gift of a thing for grouting a bald spot.” I thought about a wig, or about deodorant (in cases of complete lack of compliance with personal hygiene rules). By the way, I myself can’t stand figurines. They're blowing my mind! But I myself am a supporter of useful gifts. I love a saucepan as a gift (I just love cooking, and my husband gives me all sorts of culinary tricks). But! The vacuum cleaner is somehow not cool. Although... I think it all depends on the situation. I also consider store-bought candies, cakes, etc. to be a useless gift. If you already give food, then the one you cook yourself! But that's just my opinion! There is just some strange tradition that you need to give “good dark chocolate”, but I love milk and white. So I’m angry at all these candies!

For all the holidays throughout the year, the guy gave me all kinds of soap and soap products, such as shower gel, scrub, and so on, after which I told him everything, “dear, what are you hinting at? He didn’t do it out of malice, as it turned out, Now we're laughing at this together.

About cheap figurines - I agree 100%! If they give them to me, I’ll keep them for the New Year holidays and then throw them away. There is no beauty or value in them, there is no point in cluttering the house. I love technology, but choosing one that suits me according to all the characteristics is almost impossible. So it's also a bad gift.

I hate it when people give me cheap mascara or eyeliner. Well, or eau de toilette from Novaya Zarya.... My mother-in-law is simply the inventor of such gifts.

There are no terrible gifts. The main thing is attention. A person could give nothing at all, but still dig around, don’t look a gift horse in the mouth

They convince me that I’m the only picky whim, but in reality, these gifts leave much to be desired and the people giving them don’t want to do something nice, but simply either don’t know you or just want to get rid of you.

The best method of finding a gift is to listen carefully to the person throughout the year in order to remember and give exactly what he wanted :) We ourselves sometimes don’t notice how we express our desires. I would be glad to receive household appliances for the kitchen, since I love to cook, there is room for a soft toy.

But I don’t like soap and all kinds of cosmetic gifts. I have my own preferences and requirements in this. Sometimes, of course, they give you interesting products, but more often than not, people don’t bother and buy shampoo from AUCHAN that makes your head itch, shower gel the smell of which you can’t stand, or a set of shadows of Chinese origin, which certainly doesn’t bring you joy.

What stupidity! Only an arrogant sheep can say that she was given a bad and unnecessary gift! It's time to enjoy simple things!

The worst gifts are those that are chosen according to a template or randomly, without taking into account the characteristics of the person to whom you are giving the gift.
I would like to write the most desirable ones:
- handmade gifts for me personally;
- fresh flowers in pots;
- beautiful office;
- books.

Not in the eyebrow, but in the eye! I agree with everything!

I don't quite agree. When I was about 15, I adored teddy bears and I liked it when people gave them to me, but now (at 26 years old) of course I don’t anymore, so you have to look at your age. As for household appliances - if the guy agrees with the girl, but if the mother is given the equipment she needs, then I don’t see anything like that. As for the figurines, I consider them a bad gift for my other half, but to give them to colleagues for show, it seems to me quite normal. I agree about costume jewelry (although, again, there is, for example, Swarovski, which is very expensive, but costume jewelry)

But I love household appliances, I always order from my husband for a gift, but something specific. I also love all sorts of curling irons and beauty gadgets. But the figurines are spot on, I can’t stand them.

I can’t stand cups and mugs, they are constantly given as gifts for all holidays, and too many accumulate; not only the New Year - figurines, but also everything related to the theme: tablecloths, towels, toys for the Christmas tree... It may be symbolic, but there is very little time to use; I still neither like to give nor receive so-called universal gifts: the same mugs, towels, slippers, mittens, hats... Of these kinds of gifts, I only recognize sweets and alcohol; in any case, they will be eaten and drunk sooner or later.

Most disgusting: Gold jewelry and diamonds. Cars and other expensive equipment. Fur coats and designer items from the wardrobe. Money. Tour packages for two, three and other entertainment. In general, everything is more expensive than 1 dollar. And if you don’t like it, then such monkeys, happy to receive a soft toy for the New Year or any gift in general, are a dime a dozen.

The technology is debatable. I personally really love technology, I’ll even be happy with a new mixer. Toys are also debatable. Yes, it's a dust collector, but the big teddy bear is so cute. On other points I agree. At the very beginning of the relationship, my husband gave me a bijoux for my neck (and he hit the mark!), but I asked him not to do that again, because it’s not a fact that next time he won’t make a mistake with his choice.

To be honest, I don’t know men who give Chinese jewelry (judging by my friends), they hardly even know where it is sold, they would rather go to a jewelry store, or in extreme cases, after seeing the prices, they will buy a teddy bear. Regarding terrible gifts, I don’t like flowers in pots that are sold before all significant holidays. No, not something like orchids, but those that, in principle, are not indoors and then need to be planted in a flowerbed outside. Here they give the impression of a gift bought at the last moment at the first kiosk, to “fuck off”
- Now all stores have gift certificates. It is very convenient to give a choice, especially to women who like to go shopping. And I myself would be very pleased to receive a certificate for a tea ceremony, or a visit to the spa, some kind of excursion, maybe tickets to a concert or theater.

I agree on all points, especially about animals. But there is a huge caveat here - these are all unsuccessful gifts, unless the recipient himself has expressed a desire to receive exactly this, be it a blender or a bear from half the room. I myself give only what was asked or hinted at, and I know for sure that the person wants it.

I absolutely agree about plush toys; in general, it seems to me that they are given by guys who don’t have enough imagination for something more interesting. Deshman jewelry from a young man would not please me either, or would even offend me. But I am pleased to receive jewelry as a gift from my friends, and our tastes usually agree in this regard. Figurines are a completely separate topic; my friends and I gave them to each other for all holidays between the ages of 12 and 14, when our parents gave 200 rubles for a gift, and a figurine seemed the best option. But if they gave me a kitten, I would be very pleased.

The most disgusting thing for me is the actual kitchen utensils.

I recently gave a birthday present to a friend. He told me for a very long time how cool I was at drawing, that I shouldn’t give up on this business, that I had talent and so on. And for his birthday, I painted a big picture with giraffes (he loves them). In the end, he thanked me dryly and didn’t even take it, saying that he would take it to the dacha at his leisure. Probably, paintings are also a bad gift for any holiday. And he gave me a board game, which I have no one to play with, since I live alone and don’t bring friends home (friends are in other cities). Also a “useful” gift. But an interesting fact. But there is no one to play with.
In general, it is impossible to collect a general top of the crap, but each person will be able to collect a list of what he would not like to receive. I like it when someone gives me something from my wish list (I have a special photo album on the social network for it). And I give from wish lists whenever possible. Although I love surprises. I would not like to receive plush toys, figurines, cosmetics (if not from the wish list) for the New Year. But I would be glad to have candles, bath crap (bombs, salt) and 60 sq.m. laminate

Damn right on point! The only thing I don’t agree with is costume jewelry; sometimes for a few dollars you can get a very cool item, often vintage, by the way. BUT! It all depends on who is giving this gift, and, in fact, who will choose it, because the fine line between taste and tastelessness is almost invisible.
At least I’ll know what I can’t give you as a gift. And regarding my lists of unnecessary gifts: these are shower gels from famous brands like “Grandma Agafya” or “Palmolive”, if you give something unusual, and perfume - you can just kill yourself when a person gives you a scent that has never been You won’t wear it for life, it’s better to have a certificate!

I completely disagree about the teddy bear. Last year I was given such a miracle, a meter long, and it looks great in my apartment. And I was very pleased with the gift. There are just people who like plush animals, and there are those who don't. And when choosing a gift, you need to take this circumstance into account. But to say so categorically for everyone that this is a terrible gift is wrong. As with everything, it's a matter of taste.

That's it, I'm already incredibly tired of figurines and refrigerator magnets with the symbols of the year. I don’t want to be ungrateful, but such gifts very quickly end up in the trash. I have made it a rule to find out in advance what a person would like to receive as a gift (either personally, or he will spill the beans) and I try to give exactly that.

But I would only want a fluffy toy if it is charismatic and beautiful. I have such a hedgehog, it’s convenient to use it as a foot pillow sometimes.
I can’t stand cheap cosmetics sets from the store, a la bath foam + shower gel with a suffocating smell.

Also, I think it’s better not to give facial cosmetics or makeup products, because it’s almost impossible to guess what kind of cosmetics a person prefers. For example, if you give a person with oily skin and a lot of pimples a thick face cream, or vice versa, a person with dry and extremely sensitive skin, you give some powerful scrub that will tear up this poor skin. Or if you give mascara to a person with sore eyes, who, due to the latter, only uses hygienic mascara. For the same reasons, it is even more illogical to give clothes as a gift. If you don’t know what to give, it’s better to give something that will be 100% useful, but at the same time can please: for example, aromatic shower gel or body cream, or some unusual mug.

I absolutely agree with the list of bad gifts, I would also add deodorants and bars of regular soap. And a very “wonderful jumper”, which not only in color and style was fashionable under Kolchak, but also in size - you need to gain another 50 kilograms - and voila - all the wonderful sparkles of the pendants and frills fit “perfectly” on the shapeless flashy colors. I prefer to give with money, gift cards (Rive Gauche, Sports Master, etc., or I look at the lists of desired gifts that we compile and before the holidays we put in a certain place where the person who wants to give can see it).

I hate all kinds of figures, figurines, candles. Anything that sits idle and collects dust. (But stuffed animals are my love). Sets, tea pairs, various things for spices. Flowers in pots - ugh, not my thing, freshly cut is better.

And I like household appliances... only if I chose them. And she gave the multicooker to a friend who, while visiting me, kept circling around my multicooker and tried to persuade her husband to buy one. I agree with the opinion about soft toys. When given as a gift, she put it in a bag specially designated for this, which she then gave with all its contents to charity or to those who wanted it on sites like DaruDar.

One day, my mother-in-law suggested that my husband give as a gift a watch that her second son bought for her in Thailand, which didn’t fit, and said, “Even though she’s a bastard, I’ll still give you a gift.”

And I would be glad to have household appliances and, oh horror, even a frying pan (and more than one). Because I won’t buy it for myself because these are not essential items. For example, I still won’t buy myself a wok or a grill pan - I’ll rarely use it, it’s a pity to buy it just “to have it.” But if they give it as a gift, why not. I also won’t buy a steamer for myself, because steaming can be done using a saucepan. But if they give it to you, I will be glad. I haven’t liked soft toys since I was a teenager, but it’s more a matter of taste. In general, there is no such thing that I will be very upset if they give it to me. My boyfriend always gives wonderful gifts that bring me a lot of joy, since he focuses specifically on my desires and preferences. Moreover, he somehow elegantly manages to find out everything, not directly, but somehow unobtrusively, so that I don’t even understand that information about the gift is being collected. And then - once - and I get the thing I have long dreamed of. My friends also know me well, so they give me great things. Parents directly ask what to give. Well, if a distant person gave you a candle or shower gel, then so what. As they say, the main thing is attention. All this is still used, it will come in handy. The only thing that doesn’t upset me, but is an indicator to me that the person doesn’t really know me and didn’t even try, is when they give sweets as the main gift. That is, he didn’t just attach a chocolate bar to the gift, but brought some kind of assortment. The fact is that I, in principle, do not like sweets. And I don’t hide it, even distant acquaintances know it. So, there’s no talk of attention here, just shoot back. No, there is an exception - a type of candy that I eat and love and would be glad to receive as a gift. But these sweets are given to me only by close people who know about my addiction to them. In other cases, I give mountains of sweets and chocolates to my mother, she is a lover of any sweets. It seems that the gift does not disappear, but it turns out that the gift was given not to me, but to my mother.

Personally, it annoys me when a gift is collected like this: “Oh, that’s what I’m worried about? I have a couple of new socks from last year lying around and I’ll shove it in! The main thing is not the gift, but the attention.” Each gift must be selected for the person, otherwise it is better not to give anything or at least a box of chocolates.

Author, you’re right, unfortunately, few people know how to give gifts, your rating is not at all complete, due to a lack of imagination, or rather, basic attentiveness, people sometimes give such gifts that an entire YouTube channel is not enough to list.

For me, the worst gift is flowers (in a bouquet). An absolutely useless thing, it also reminds us of the frailty of life. Most gifts that are not particularly needed can be put to good use and given to someone who needs it. And even the same ugly thing can be repainted into something unimaginable, it will turn out to be a designer piece. But flowers are of little use and they are not cheap, it would be better not to give anything at all, but to use the money for charity. I constantly fight with my mother about this - she believes that a holiday without flowers is a failure and rages when my friends or fiancé don’t give me them. “Well, that’s how it’s accepted!”

With the birth of my child, I began to notice that many relatives and friends stopped giving me gifts altogether. Everyone comes and gives gifts to the child, but I seem to get by. So I would be glad to have a toilet brush. In general, it always infuriated me when people gave perfume as a gift. I’m so picky in this regard that I can’t choose perfume for myself. And what a gift! Fe!

Everyone loves to give them, although there are a lot of nuances. You may simply not like the gift (wrong color, smell, etc.), or the person may be allergic to it. In order not to get into trouble, you need to know what brand a person uses, what shades and aromas he prefers. It is clear that you should not give cheap lipstick or perfume to a lady who only uses expensive brands. And the fact that such prices are beyond your means cannot in any way serve as an excuse.

Decorations

It’s very easy to “miss” when giving jewelry. For example, a person wears only jewelry made from natural stones, but is given cheap jewelry. I have a bunch of wooden and plastic beads and pendants at home that I have never worn. They just tried to “make me happy” with them for my next birthday. And my mother is often given earrings, although her ears are not pierced.

Before giving jewelry, find out the person's tastes or at least observe his style. You don’t want the trinket you gave to be later given away or to find a place at the bottom of the box?

Books

Nowadays it is very fashionable to present various richly illustrated gift publications for birthdays. But the fact is that not everyone is interested in beautiful pictures; for some, the theme of the book is still important. If this is a volume of poetry, and the person to whom the gift is addressed does not really like poetry, then, most likely, the volume will be put on a shelf and forgotten. Likewise, there is no point in giving an illustrated guidebook to someone who doesn't like to travel. Or give some popular encyclopedia to someone who is generally not inquisitive by nature and reads little. You should not give a book on music or painting to someone who is not interested in these types of art. Give a book if you are sure that the person will at least leaf through it.

Animals

For some reason, many people think that a kitten or puppy would be the best birthday gift. Yes, if you give such a gift to a child, he will most likely be happy. But you can cause a lot of inconvenience to his parents with this gift. And if the recipient of the gift is an adult, then you can embarrass both him and yourself.

Not all people are ready to take care of a pet. Perhaps a person does not have the opportunity to do it because he has a lot of work, or he is often on the road. Or the apartment does not have conditions for a four-legged “tenant” to stay... Or the family already has animals. You never know!

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Giving a living “gift” is appropriate only in one case - if you warned about it in advance and agreed on the issue with the future owner of the living creature or his relatives. Even if a person previously told you that he dreams of a cat, or a dog, or a guinea pig, it is not a fact that he will actually jump for joy.

Flowers, sweets and wine

They can serve as an addition to the gift, but the main gift should be more “meaningful”. The flowers will wither in a couple of days, the sweets will eventually be eaten, the wine will be drunk... There will be no memory of the gift left. Such things are usually given as a present on duty - when there is no time to specifically look for something.

Remember that on their birthday, everyone wants to feel like they mean something to others. Therefore, the more individual your gift looks, the more it suits this particular person, the more likely it is that it will actually be in demand.